While grabbing a bite with my mom today we came to the dreaded discussion of "Marriage". She keeps nudging me to pull the trigger. My argument? Do you know the rate of divorces now days? (being a devoted Catholic as she is, that was not going to fly with her.) So it goes to say, the percentage of people getting divorces for the sake of money is quite high, and with the economy as bad as it is now, asking to get married is just like writing a contract to when my divorce will be.
So she asks, whats the point of having a boyfriend if you don't think about marriage?
It is when you think and want something like marriage is when it all falls apart. To say the least I am not even thinking of the "M" word, I am just chugging along, getting my finances together ( and while I am at it, enjoying life sans great commitment) I cannot say to anyone that they are "THE ONE" because seriously...NO ONE is THE ONE...because I AM THE ONE! << sounds like a cheesy line from that money "The One" starring Jet Li.
After all these years you'd think I learned a thing or two right? I don't trust anyone whether it be my friends, my boyfriend, or husband. You may be scraching your head wondering why I wouldn't trust my husband. Haven't you heard any of those tragic betrayal stories? John Edwards, Arnold Schwarzenegger, Tiger Woods, Jesse James...and what about all those scorned women left behind on this trail of heartbreak?
Needless to say, I commit myself to one thing....making sure I don't end up like that! How will you be able to that? You may ask? Who says you have to commit yourself 100% of the time ( knowing that there is a slight 20-50% change you would be betrayed) I put myself first and I am not about to let anyone change it other wise.
Being in "LOVE" doesn't mean I have to give the other person everything, it is giving them something and they appreciate whatever you give them. My boyfriend may cherish everything I give him now, but people change. Everyone changes, feelings change, circumstances change...everything does. So when you decide to go on that date with that one person don't think too far off to the world of "MARRIAGE" just think of the happy moments you can share with each other now.
Break ups can be a bitch, especially when you don't have closure. When the other person breaks up with you out of the blue (it usually means 1. they met someone else or 2. they just don't feel the same way about you anymore) Don't you just hate it when people over analyze what you say just to come up with an answer to satisfy their inner denial?
For example:
Girl: Its over, I don't want to be in a relationship.
Boy: *thinking* okay she doesn't want to be in a relationship, so she wants to be an open type of relationship? I still have a chance!
** Theresaisms translation: I DO WANT A RELATIONSHIP, JUST NOT WITH YOU!
Goes to show you cannot and SHOULD not get married until you can grow up out of all that stupid immature assumptions. Come to think of it, people should get married in their mid thirties to early forties, that seems right about the age people GROW UP.
My mom decides to change to subject after I get heated up and start rambling on about how marriage is a bunch of shit because people just don't take it as serious as they used to. It isn't as SACRED as the church says it is.
When it comes to relationships, I give it 60%, the other 40% fluctuates. Got to protect yourself from the heartbreak that might or might not happen right?
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